12.07.2011

advent venture - dec 7

if you read this post you will know that i am already baby crazy even though my boy is only 7 months old.  i am resolved to not try to get pregnant right now (because i realized my motives are APPALLING and TERRIBLE, the same sick over-achieving martyr motives that made me take calc bc in high school when i hate math).  that makes me sad.

last year i was pregnant at christmas.  i was showing, we knew freddy was a boy, and he was a KICKER!  it was very special.  i was primed with christmas-y emotions of anticipation and tenderness and wonder.

but this year i am primed in a different way.  last year i had the (subconscious) anticipation of a baby who would give me the identity i always craved.  this year i am struggling with the (unfortunately conscious) fact that the long-awaited magical mother identity does not save!  i have the anticipation of someday "coming up from the desert, leaning on her lover's arm" (song of sol 8:5).  i have the anticipation of the one Baby who did give me a new identity.  a new name, a new heart.

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